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What type of parent are you?

I think it’s safe to say that as parents we base our parenting styles on the way we were raised. But, did you know that there are different parenting styles; and the parenting approach you use, may determine your child’s behavior?

Parenting styles consist of three types:

Another parenting style that was identified through later research was the Neglectful Parenting Style. While these parents provide their child’s basic needs, they lack interest or involvement in their child’s daily life. These parents have few demands, lack appropriate communication relationships with their child, and rank low in responsiveness to their child. In extreme cases, signs of neglect and rejection are present.

Knowing how your parenting style affects your child is just as important as identifying your approach to parenting. Now you should ask yourself:

How do these parenting styles affect children?

Autocratic parenting style Children whose parents practice this style are characterized as obedient and proficient. However, they rate lower in happiness, social skills and self esteem.

Democratic parenting style- Children whose parents practice democratic parenting are well balanced, happy, capable and successful.

Permissive parenting style- Children whose parents practice permissive parenting are generally low in happiness and self-regulation. Most often, these children are likely to experience challenges with authority and perform poorly within their school environment.

Neglectful parenting style- When parents are uninvolved in all dimensions of a child’s life, their children are marked by low self-esteem and self-control and are less proficient than their peers.

What parenting style works best with your child?

Research has shown that parents who use a democratic style of parenting have children who are emotionally healthier, have greater self-confidence, and more often successful at school.  The key to adapting parenting strategies to fit an individual child is maintaining a mixture of firmness and responsiveness and being consistent.

Promoting productive relationships with others (most importantly the parent/child relationships), creates an environment that fosters your child’s development, and happiness.

To learn more about your parenting style, take one of these parenting style quizzes:




Bria Sledge is a project assistant at NCSU in the Department of Agricultural and Human Sciences. Bria recently received her master’s degree in Liberal Studies and a certificate in Family Life Coaching at NC State. Bria loves working with children and works everyday to improve the lives of children and their families.